You guys! You guys!
We thought we were interviewing an author about their book written for (outside) children about DID, but it became about their journey of love while discovering DID.
These two grew up together, and dated throughout high school and college, and then finally got married and started their family. Listen to their story! It’s so touching, from him being a witness to some of what she endured to her fighting through medical dramas and even having surgeries to find out what was wrong to ultimately being diagnosed with DID. Deciding together to make this a part of their life, rather than feel like their lives were disrupted by it, they looked for a way to talk about it with their (outside) children. That’s when they wrote their book: The Patchwork Quilt (CLICK HERE TO SEE ON AMAZON).
Beautifully illustrated by their niece, The Patchwork Quilt is an excellent resource for both outside children and inside Littles. Simple but profound, it’s also just a wonderful metaphor for explaining DID to adults and other support people, as well. We are so grateful for Jeff taking the time to tell us their story-behind-the-story!
Sasha wanted to add more to the discussion about Littles. In episode six of season two, she shared her own perspective about how time applies (and doesn’t apply) inside a DID system. We did learn after the previous episode that the video the listener was reference was this one, by The Entropy System:
Sasha shared some about how some Littles stop aging due to a traumatic event, and others stop aging when they aren’t required to function as much in the external world anymore. Other times it happens due to a new alter taking over that role due to new trauma or some other reason. There can be lots of reasons, and each system will be unique both in how this happens and their understanding of it.
One thing she is becoming aware of, though, is how much you can learn from Littles within your own system. One example of this she gave was John, who helps us notice when we make positive changes. He likes to pass out “badges” (stickers he got from the therapist) to us and to the husband when we make healthy or empowered choices differently than we would in the past. We promised a picture, and here you go!